Just some thoughts in the morning ... I think its important to try to ask Jesus to help us see the root of people's unkindness, actions etc, and see their heart, instead of just the surface things- . There was a guy from the gospel mission who spoke of how this woman came in just totally angry and rude and aggressive. At some point he realized this stemmed from her abuse by men. Once he asked her about it she broke down into tears. We have to be careful not to judge anything but Fruit, and to try to see PAST what others are saying into whether the words are coming from hurt or pain etc. ..
We know with Christ, experience does not a person make, however, a person can become crippled by experience. We need to see the person, love them, ask Christ to help us love them, despite who that person is as a result of dealing with being maimed, crippled etc on an emotional level even. Most people who are the most unlovable need loving the most. Sometimes I don't know why the person is cranky or don't find out, but, that person probably needs kindness the most.
The following is written by Rainier Maria Rilke, in "letters to a young poet""
How should we be able to forget those ancient myths that are at the
beginning of all peoples, the myths about dragons that at the last
moment turn into princesses; perhaps all of the dragons of our lives
are princesses who are only waiting to see us once beautiful and
brave. Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest being
something helpless that wants help ..."